Another issue is that culturally relationships are driven by men, at least in the first innings. Who knows, perhaps I’ll find my special someone through this post?This is different in the more progressive Scandinavian cultures. I want to thank the amazing women who participated involuntarily in this experiment.In computer science, this is known as the optimal stopping algorithm, aka the secretary problem. An abstraction layer capable of managing online dating for me: My first problem was solved: getting leads into the pipeline. If I changed my profile picture and got more “likes” as a result, that meant it was better.I was tracking data, which made it easy to see what performed best.This one worked, probably because it hides the bulging stomach and the balding head.Conversion rates increased: more matches, more leads, more dates to schedule. I want to find the One, the special relationship that will last many years and multiply happiness. But I’m bad at small talk, and I jump too fast to intellectual conversations, making it awkward. I wanted to find the perfect match, so I wasn’t going to be an amateur about it. I’m a fat, bald, short guy whose only quality is that he isn’t an ax murderer. Since I’m 31, and eventually want a family, I figured I’d better not procrastinate. For any serious endeavor, you need a serious process.
To give you ballpark numbers, 43% responded after the first message, 21% after the second, 14% after the third, 9%, 3%,1%, 1%. The number would then be recorded in my custom CRM and automated texts would be sent with Twilio.
I decided to hack the system and go for volume instead of personalization. I was determined to find the One, even if it meant swiping right the whole Bay Area.
I needed to come up with a rigorous and scientific process. You need a certain amount of candidates to be able to benchmark what quality means, and humans are really difficult to assess. I had to qualify each lead — see with which girl there was a fit and with which there wasn’t, to maximize chances of finding the One. Openers, follow-up messages, swiping, bookmarking, text messages and phone number recording. I assumed canned messages wouldn’t work well, but after over 10,000 sent, there wasn’t a significant response rate difference between personalized and generic messages. I became an online dating magician who knew how to optimize a profile — A/B testing pictures and message.
Almost everyone wants to avoid pathetic dating drama. That’s why you’ll be happy to hear that we’re designed for singles who are sincere about their intentions. Think about how much more fun dating is when you meet singles who don’t want to play games with you.
A lot of people will tell you that long distance relationships rarely ever work out.