Their developing romance illustrates some of the challenges that occur with dating a man in a wheelchair.These challenges go beyond the logistical issues of access, and often touch nearly every aspect of the dating relationship.'When I first went on Tinder, I just thought, "OK, I'm a nice person, I'm not bad-looking, I've got a good career", but then I felt like I had to view myself as a disabled person instead.' She is pretty used to it by now, and has found that it doesn't stop her from having a normal, happy life; she travels, has a good job in public relations, and lives by herself.She has had an active love life, too, mostly dating guys whom she meets in person first.In the dating market, a man's desirability often hinges to some extent on his financial resources.During the financial crisis that began in 2007, many men began to scale back their dating expenses or stop dating altogether because of wage cuts or job loss.In some cases, men found that their appeal to women had diminished.The documentary film "Murderball" shows disabled men playing a particularly rough variety of wheelchair rugby at paralympic competitions in Sweden and Athens.
Some disabled men develop what Women With Disabilities Australia called "supercrip" tendencies, placing extreme emphasis on developing physical strength in their arms and other areas of their bodies.However, there are often physical and mental adjustments, not least of which involve the attitudes of many able-bodied people that disabled men and women are or should be asexual."I was not allowed to be a lover, not even with girls who got close to me.Eventually, Kristen became so discouraged that she just deleted Tinder altogether.'But other people won't let you be defined by anything other than being in a wheelchair.And I don't think it's their fault, but I did see that there were more people than I realized who felt that way.