Christian dating for all the world
What are we really after in dating (or in all of life)?
What are we trying to secure or enjoy in this relationship?
It’s estimated that the Pacific Ocean holds 187 deep. The Lord says to Job, “Who shut in the sea with doors when it burst out from the womb, when I made clouds its garment and thick darkness its swaddling band, and prescribed limits for it and set bars and doors, and said, ‘Thus far shall you come, and no farther, and here shall your proud waves be stayed’? And then he drew a line in the sand and told the waves they could go no farther. To show us that the waves are his, to tell us that he is sovereign, creative, and wise — and that he can be trusted.
And we can safely play there in its wake at Newport Beach, wading carelessly into seemingly infinite power and mystery. “He established the fountains of the deep, when he assigned to the sea its limit, so that the waters might not transgress his command, when he marked out the foundations of the earth” (Proverbs –29). God does the same kind of work in marriage and dating.
“He said to the woman, ‘Did God actually say, “You shall not eat of any tree in the garden”? Do you hear the manipulation and deception — making freedom look like slavery?
Why did God tell them not to eat from the one tree?
“Each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2).
No almost-husbands, not kind-of-wives, no probably-one-day marriages.
Boundaries are hard to keep, at least in part, because Satan convinces us we’re only sacrificing and never gaining, that we’re holed up in this dark, cold, damp cave called Christian dating. Christ came to us not to enslave us, though, but to liberate us.He drew a line in the sand for our safety, and to secure our greatest happiness in marriage.Setting good boundaries in dating will rest on recognizing and even appreciating God’s one massive boundary. Any man who is not your husband is not your husband.If the honest answer is affection and intimacy, no number of boundaries can guard us completely.We can put up all the fences we want, but the brokenness hides inside of us (and all our fences), and it waits to strike when we’re at our weakest and most vulnerable.