Advice for dating a man with a child
This is important because you cannot separate the parent from the children. Often, the attention, time and resources that a parent devotes to his/her children can make one feel jealous or resentful. Single parents are likely to set basic boundaries with regards to their children. Sometimes when we meet the kids we want to make a good impression.If you are dating a parent, their children will be part of the picture at some point. Are you self-assured and independent enough to accept that the children of your date will be the priority? These boundaries can range from time devoted to children, to dietary/nutrition concerns, to when late night guests are acceptable. If you are dating a single parent and your relationship has progressed to the point where you spend time together with the kids, notice how your date parents, the kids’ behaviors, and the family culture. Maybe we try too hard: excessively friendly, overly generous, or uncomfortably upbeat. It is natural that children may be somewhat leery of a new person in the mix.His youngest daughter was extremely sickly or maybe just accident-prone.It was difficult for us to make plans because we had different schedules, and, to make matters worse, his daughter would get sick (or whatever) when we had plans.I’ve not only dated a man with children, but I’m also the child of a divorced man.
It can take time to develop a comfort zone, not only with a new person, but also with the kids and with the new person as a parent as well.
Another big issue in this type of relationship is baby mama drama.
Most men try to avoid conflict with the women in their lives at all costs, so it’s a pretty safe bet that he will go along with whatever ridiculousness his children’s mother puts him through.
The girls’ mother also had a demanding job, so she never seemed available to deal with her own children.
So this brings me to my first point: If you date a man with children, you can never expect to come first.